It is funny because bullying is not just a childhood thing, it can go way into adulthood. I experienced it recently at a facility I was doing a favor for, the person had left such a terrible feeling I chose to call in sick the following day. In my dilemma I felt maybe I should reach out to my HR regarding the situation and how I felt I did not want to work at that facility anymore. HR spoke with the director and the call I got back was not what I had in mind. There really wasn't a sympathetic ear instead I felt attacked! Now I am the one doing you a favor and this is the thanks I get? Maybe calling in was cowardly, but how do you address a situation with out it backlashing in the end.
I remember as a child when something terrible did happen, I told my mother, and in return I was known as the tattle tale. Where do you go from there? A victim of bullying to a victim for telling? It is not the easiest telling on someone without repercussions, because there always is. You become the social out cast because you told on the bully and no one wants to be friends with the tattle taler.
My situation started off when giving report to the morning shift, she deliberately started asking me irrelevant questions regarding a patient that was no longer there. Then she starts speaking in her native tongue and obviously it is about me. I do not know how other people feel, but speaking in your native tongue with people that do not speak it is offensive. I understand that it maybe easier to speak in your native tongue because it takes less effort, but maybe they should not be working at a facility where English is the primary language.
In the end I felt attacked from both directions and to finish off with a little bit of passive aggressiveness. Some times the person in charge does not realize the backlash a person has to face once they open up can of worms. As a grown up feeling like the way I did when I was a kid is not a good feeling. I have one more day of sucking it up and never having to go there again.
